Ghanaian singer Cina Soul has opened up about the type of man she would like to be with, making it clear that she prefers someone who is not in the entertainment industry.
Speaking on Prime Morning with KMJ, she was asked if she would consider dating a fellow musician, especially since her songs often focus on love. In response, Cina Soul said she would rather be in a relationship or get married to someone from a different profession.
“I feel like artiste to artiste is someway. It could work for some people, but for me, I want someone with a different story. I want us to come back home and talk about things like, how was the hospital?
How was court? How was the bank? Not every day talking about the studio. We’ll all talk about the same thing, and I just want something different,” she explained.
However, she added that while she prefers someone outside her field, the person should be fun and have the right vibe to complement hers.
When asked whether such a relationship might become boring—using a doctor as an example—she disagreed, stating that it would be interesting to hear about medical experiences.
“I don’t think it will be boring. You’ll have so many stories. I think he’ll be like, this person did this, and then I saved a life… I feel it will be very interesting,” she noted.
Although Cina Soul is open to dating someone outside the music industry, she shared that she is not ready for a relationship at the moment. Her main focus is on growing her music career.
For now, the Ojorley singer has released her first album, Did I Lie, which includes two songs: Larger Than Life featuring Stonebwoy and Too Bad.
Gisela Ama Amponsah is currently making waves on social media after her recent podcast appearance, where she shared her turbulent relationship with her father.
Her candid remarks have sparked widespread discussion, placing her at the center of both national and international media attention.
Here are 4 key things to learn about Gisela
Outside of her social media and vlogging career, Gisela, a 25-year-old University of Ghana graduate, has a background in Business Administration.
She is also active in the corporate sector, specializing in digital marketing for a private firm, following her previous role in an insurance company.
Gisela first gained public attention as a contestant in the 2019 Miss Malaika Ghana pageant, where she made it to the final four before being eliminated.
Originating from Sunyani in the Bono Region, she has since leveraged her experiences to build a notable presence both online and offline.
Ghanaian gospel singer Diana Asamoah has taken to social media to address rumors suggesting she is involved romantically with younger men.
Asamoah clarified that the man seen with her is not a lover but rather a younger brother or family member.
In her statement, Asamoah emphasized her commitment to serving God alone and distanced herself from practices she believes are contrary to her faith.
She expressed disappointment at the spread of an alleged video implying an inappropriate relationship, stating firmly, “The man you see me around with is like a brother to me. I don’t engage in those things that my fellow evangelists do; I serve God only.”
Asamoah’s clarification underscores her unwavering dedication to her religious beliefs amidst public scrutiny.
Human nature is negatively bias, selfish and competitive.
We often prioritize our own desires and needs, overlooking the positive aspects of our relationships.
Instead of focusing on what’s working well, we tend to dwell on the shortcomings, always yearning for more regardless of the source.
This tendency is exacerbated in our materialistic society, where one’s worth is often equated with possessions. As a result, many struggle to find contentment and overlook the blessings bestowed upon them by a higher power.
Consider a scenario where a woman contemplates leaving her partner due to his lack of time for her. However, upon reflection, she realizes that his demanding job is the cause of his limited availability. Despite this, he remains honest and faithful, providing her with financial security, gifts, travel opportunities, a comfortable home, and romantic gestures whenever possible. It’s during counseling sessions that she begins to appreciate all she has.
Being content doesn’t mean lacking ambition; rather, it involves gratitude for what one has and patience for what may come. It stems from a deep acceptance of life’s circumstances.
A heart contented is akin to a tranquil sea amidst turbulent storms.
The danger of discontentment
A discontented lover views everything through a negative lens, perpetually dissatisfied with their relationship. They tend to downplay positive experiences while magnifying minor grievances, leading them to question their partner’s suitability.
Such a partner overlooks potential opportunities and fails to appreciate the value in small gestures. In doing so, they inadvertently sabotage their chances for success.
Discontentment spreads like a contagious germ, affecting every aspect of life including work, friendships, and especially marriage. When one partner harbors discontent, it infects the other, leading to bitterness, frustration, selfishness, hostility, and an unwillingness to forgive. This toxic cycle can spell the beginning of the end for a relationship.
Finding contentment
Contentment cannot be found in your partner or material possessions; it emanates from within and is nurtured by gratitude and faith.
Begin by recognizing the inherent goodness in yourself and your partner. Self-love is fundamental to a healthy relationship, fostering peace and commitment.
Set realistic expectations, understanding that perfection is unattainable. Embrace your differences and approach challenges with honesty, appreciation, and forgiveness.
Avoid comparing your relationship to others, as appearances can be deceiving. Focus on nurturing your own bond rather than seeking greener pastures elsewhere.
Accept your financial situation with contentment, recognizing that money alone cannot buy happiness. Work diligently and trust in God’s provision, knowing that true wealth lies in relationships and inner peace.
Cont
Both partners must cultivate contentment within themselves for a successful relationship. In a study conducted in the United States, 80 percent of respondents cited mutual contentment as the key to their marital happiness.
Rather than yearning for wealth, prioritize the richness of your relationship. True happiness can be found in the quality of your connection, not material abundance. It’s better to have a little and live in harmony than to possess great wealth amidst turmoil.
Embrace contentment as a source of great fulfillment. When you have food, shelter, and clothing, acknowledge God’s provision and be grateful. Count your blessings and recognize the abundance that surrounds you.
Adapt to both prosperity and adversity, maintaining gratitude and avoiding bitterness or selfishness. A thankful heart attracts blessings and enriches your relationship.
Appreciate your partner for who they are and cherish the love you share. Give thanks in all circumstances, including the joy found in your relationship.
There’s a lot of work, compromise and sacrifice that goes into fostering a healthy, loving bond, and if you aren’t willing to give it all you have, you probably won’t make it through the trials
The story we’re sold about love usually doesn’t go past the exposition. The part people write about and talk about and make films about is the seeking, finding, losing and finding again.
We talk about heartbreak and loss, and how we grapple with ourselves and our partners, but we don’t talk about the mundane, the ordinary, the everyday lives we ultimately settle back into once the firework show has ended.
Because we’re conditioned to think that the chase and the thrill and the acquisition of love is love itself, we’re hooked on ideas more than we are open to connection.
We aren’t willing to do the work. Work isn’t romantic. Work isn’t fun.
Here are all the signs that you’re already in the right relationship. It’s just a matter of seeing it through.
1. You feel at peace.
In any other situation, this would put you at ease. But lately, it’s left you questioning whether or not that romantic spark still exists.
The truth is that the kind of love that lasts, the kind on which you build a respectful, intimate, real relationship, makes you feel at peace.
It’s more comfort than it is panic and thrill. There’s a difference between settling into comfort and settling for less than a love that makes you feel like your best, most grounded self.
2. You know how to resolve your old relationship patterns.
When you arrive at the point that you’re able to recognize a pattern emerging, you’re also at the point where you’re ready to let it go.
Often in the best relationships, these issues stand front-and-center. It’s never a matter of whether or not you experience them, but whether or not you resolve them.
3. You realize that nobody is responsible for your happiness but you.
When most people give up on love, it’s because they’ve reached the point at which the other person doesn’t make them happy.
The harsh reality is that nobody else can make you happy — not consistently, anyway. Regardless, that’s never something you should rely on.
Unhappy periods will come and go, but your bond has to be stronger.
The key to that is fueling your own gas tank; as anyone in a long-term relationship can tell you, it’s unrealistic attachment and expectation that sinks the ship faster than anything else.
4. You have an unprecedented level of acceptance for one another.
This is often an overlooked quality for a relationship, but it’s an important one.
The right relationship is the one in which you have a mutual acceptance and respect for one another.
In other words, you’re not trying to change each other. You don’t tease each other for the little things.
You see who the person is in their entirety, not just the parts you’d prefer.
5. You want the same things in the long-term.
There are so many crucial practicalities when it comes to choosing a life partner who’s suited for you, though none of them seem very romantic on the surface.
One of the most important is whether or not you want the same things in the big picture: kids or dogs or both? Suburbs or city?
If any one person has to compromise a fundamental part of the life they want to live for the sake of the relationship, it likely won’t work out.
6. You both want to make it work.
All relationships have issues. Making it through them is usually only a matter of whether or not both parties have a deep, innate desire to do so.
There’s a lot of work, compromise and sacrifice that goes into fostering a healthy, loving bond, and if you aren’t willing to give it all you have, you probably won’t make it through the trials that you will inevitably face.
A Nigerian woman named Florence has tragically taken her own life following the termination of her relationship by her married sugar daddy.
The heartbreaking incident unfolded when the married man decided to prioritize his family over the extramarital affair.
Sources reveal that Florence harboured hopes of a future with her sugar daddy, anticipating that he would eventually divorce his wife to be with her.
Unfortunately, her dreams were shattered, and she found herself trapped in a disillusioned state.
The devastating blow came when her sugar daddy unequivocally instructed her to cease all contact, emphasising his commitment to focusing on his family.
Struggling to cope with the emotional turmoil of the breakup, witnesses report that Florence resorted to consuming rat poison as a tragic means to end her life.
This heartbreaking story sheds light on the profound impact of complicated relationships and the devastating consequences that can ensue when emotions run high.
See reactions below:
@Lilan Helbert – No sympathy for this one I beg I need adonko next level .
@Iam Blessy 1 – Hmm )d) de nipa bedru akyire o hmmm
@Nielakourt – Eeeeiii????? on top of someone’s husband
Communication Breakdown: If you’ve noticed a significant decrease in the frequency of texts and calls from your partner, or if their responses seem less enthusiastic and more obligatory, it could be a sign that they are creating emotional distance.
Emotional Disconnection: Previously, your partner may have shown keen interest in hearing about even the most mundane aspects of your day. However, if they now seem less engaged and sharing experiences feels like talking to a wall, it could indicate emotional disconnection.
Social Exclusion: In the past, weekends may have meant spending time together or at least checking in about plans. But if your partner now consistently makes plans without including you, and you only find out about their outings through social media or after the fact, it may signal that they are distancing themselves.
Absence in Future Plans: When discussing future plans, observe whether your partner includes you. If you notice that they seem to be making plans for the future without considering you, it could suggest that they don’t see you in their long-term vision.
One-sided Effort: Do you find yourself being the one who always initiates conversations, plans date nights, or seeks intimacy? If so, it might indicate that your partner has emotionally checked out of the relationship, leaving you to maintain the connection alone.
A 45-year-old man has come forward to share the shocking details of an ongoing affair with his biological mother, which has resulted in him fathering two children who are also his siblings.
The confession, made on Twitter now X by an anonymous individual, outlines the secret relationship that began when the man was 22 years old, returning from an outing.
The man, currently married and leading a seemingly happy life, expressed deep regret over the situation.
“I have been sleeping with my biological mother for years now, this happened when I was 22 years returning from an outing, we continued the affair till I fathered 2 biological children of my own who are also my siblings and being taken care of by my father. My mother has 8 children in total and I am now disturbed and want to reveal the secret to the family,” the 45-year-old man revealed.
The affair remained a closely guarded secret within the family, unknown to both his father and other relatives.
Despite the challenges of maintaining a double life, the man now feels compelled to disclose the truth to his family, disturbed by the consequences of the taboo relationship.
Adding another layer to the complex situation, the man shared that he faces attacks from his biological mother, despite being happily married.
The Twitter confession sheds light on the intricate web of secrets and familial dynamics that have entangled the man for years, leaving him with a sense of urgency to come forward.
Watch video below:
A 45year married man has been “daggering” his mom for decades and two of his siblings are his biological children.
His father is still alive and has no idea what’s happened under his roof.
A Ghanaian woman, choosing to remain anonymous, has stirred up social media with her candid revelation that she avoids dating men in their 30s because, according to her, they fail to engage in meaningful conversations.
In a viral video, the woman, in her 20s, expressed her current relationship status with a man in his 30s, but hinted at a potential shift to dating someone in their 40s if things don’t work out.
“Right now I am in a relationship with someone in his 30’s, if it doesn’t work well, I will move to someone in their 40’s. Okay I am 20 now and guys in their 30’s, some of them when they talk, they don’t make sense.
The disclosure has ignited a lively discussion online, with netizens sharing their opinions and reservations about her unconventional dating preferences.
When relationships end, it’s often a sign that something within needs to change. Your breakup might not be about hurting you but rather revealing the need for personal growth. Recognize your worth, resilience, and ability to thrive independently.
His departure might be creating space for someone better suited for you. If the train of your relationship didn’t stop, it wasn’t your destined journey. Believing this empowers your mindset, shaping your reality.
Reflecting on my sister Anna’s breakup, she initially felt devastated, questioning her self-worth. Late one night, she discovered her ex’s engagement, adding to her distress. However, during our heartfelt conversation, it became evident that her chronic feeling of unworthiness was the real issue.
Blaming karma temporarily relieved her pain, but the deeper problem persisted. We explored a transformative question: “What kind of relationship do I want?” This question, often overlooked, holds the key to reshaping our perspectives and attracting positive outcomes.
Anna, initially skeptical, began outlining her desires in a partner. Shifting from a mentality of unworthiness, she took charge of her desires. I encouraged her, emphasizing that she deserves happiness. By practicing a mindset of self-esteem, she gradually replaced old beliefs.
For a month, Anna repeated affirmations, embracing the idea that it’s for the best and she deserves happiness. As she refined her ‘preferred guy’ list, he unexpectedly appeared. A co-worker at the hospital, he entered her life when she was ready to welcome him without insecurities.
The lesson learned: You can never lose what is truly meant for you. Embracing self-worth and defining your desires paves the way for a more fulfilling journey.
When it comes to respect in a relationship, not only men need it; women also need to be respected too.
To maintain a strong and respectful connection, both partners need to be mindful of their actions.
Here are three things women should avoid to foster respect in their relationships:
1. Accepting gifts after disrespect instead of an apology:
One common pitfall in relationships is the tendency to replace genuine apologies with material gestures.
When a man errs and attempts to smooth things over with gifts or compliments instead of a sincere apology, it can be harmful to the relationship.
Allowing this behaviour to persist may signal that disrespect can be overlooked with the right gift. It’s important to communicate that genuine apologies and accountability are non-negotiable components of a healthy relationship.
2. Taking disrespect in silence:
If you are unhappy with how you’ve been treated, address it, don’t gloss over it. What you tolerate will only escalate. Keeping your feelings within you and acting like everything is okay won’t help.
By expressing your unhappiness with the way you’ve been treated, you set the stage for open communication.
Healthy relationships thrive on honest conversations, and addressing issues as they arise prevents the escalation of problems. A good partner will appreciate your honesty and be willing to work on improving the relationship.
3. Not being firm on your principles and standards:
Respecting oneself is as vital as respecting the other person in a relationship. When a woman allows her partner to disrespect her without consequences, it can lead to a pattern of disregard for her feelings.
If a woman communicates her expectations and remains firm in her values, it sets the tone for a relationship built on mutual respect.
Fostering respect in a relationship is a shared responsibility. Both partners must actively contribute to creating a space where each feels valued and heard.
By avoiding these three common pitfalls, women can contribute to a healthier dynamic where respect is upheld as a cornerstone of love and partnership.
Being firm on personal principles and standards is not about being inflexible but rather about establishing healthy boundaries.
Françoise Bettencourt Meyers, at 70 years old, has achieved a significant milestone by becoming the world’s richest woman, joining the ranks of the traditionally male-dominated billionaire club, as per the Bloomberg Billionaires Index.
As of Thursday, Meyers saw her fortune surge past the $100 billion threshold, propelled by L’Oréal S.A.’s stock reaching record highs. While her net worth dipped slightly to $99.9 billion by the end of the trading day, she now stands in the league of billionaires like Warren Buffett, Mark Zuckerberg, and Jeff Bezos.
Profile of Françoise Bettencourt Meyers
Inheriting a 35% controlling stake in L’Oréal, a company her grandfather founded in 1909, Françoise Bettencourt Meyers and her family have grown the brand into a globally renowned beauty empire, now valued at over $240 billion.
Born on July 10, 1953, Bettencourt Meyers became the principal heir of a vast fortune and diverse assets, including luxury properties worldwide, following her mother Liliane Bettencourt’s demise in 2017. This inheritance marked the end of a longstanding familial dispute over the assets.
Tumultuous Relationship with Liliane Bettencourt
Bettencourt Meyers’ relationship with her mother, Liliane, has been complex and often public. Notably, the release of recordings by her butler sparked an investigation involving former French President Nicolas Sarkozy and allegations of influence-peddling against ex-Labor Minister Eric Woerth.
The controversy escalated into a legal battle when Bettencourt Meyers questioned her mother’s competency in managing their wealth. Liliane faced accusations of misallocating about $1.3 billion in gifts to a friend. This family drama was later depicted in a Netflix documentary. “The Billionaire, The Butler, and The Boyfriend.”
Philanthropy and business ventures
Apart from her role as vice-chair of the L’Oréal board, overseeing subsidiaries like Maybelline, Kiehl’s, and NYX, Bettencourt Meyers is a prolific author. She has published works on Greek mythology and Jewish-Christian relationships. Engaging in philanthropy, she directs funds towards science and social development. Her two sons, Jean-Victor Meyers, 37, and Nicolas Meyers, 35, also serve as directors.
A glimpse into Bettencourt Meyers’ lifestyle
Described as a reclusive billionaire, Bettencourt Meyers devotes hours daily to playing the piano. Her vast wealth is evident in her real estate holdings, including million-dollar mansions worldwide. She possesses a collection of luxury automobiles, featuring a Bentley Continental GT, Jaguar F-Type, Ferrari, and Porsche 911 Cabriolet.
The inclusion of Françoise Bettencourt Meyers in the billionaire elite underscores her influential role in the beauty industry and her significant contributions to various fields.
Experiencing a sense of being unwanted in a relationship often translates to feelings of neglect or a perceived lack of priority. In such instances, particularly for women, there can be a sensation of shouldering all the emotional burdens within the relationship.
This sentiment of feeling unwanted can give rise to tensions in the relationship, prompting reactions from both men and women. When hurt, let down, or unloved, individuals may resort to verbal attacks as a means to elicit emotional engagement from their partners. Unfortunately, this can result in a harmful pattern, with exaggerated words like “never” or “always” characterizing the partner’s perceived unfeeling behavior. The critical tone and intense emotions may unknowingly come across as harsh or manipulative.
In the midst of such attacks, it’s crucial to recognize that the individuals involved might not fully grasp the impact of their words and actions. The attacking partner may not realize the fear instilled in the loved one. The partner, in turn, might react by shutting down or withdrawing, leaving the attacker feeling ignored and unimportant.
This triggers a primal survival response— the fight-or-flight instinct. While one partner takes flight to preserve their well-being, the other engages in a fight to uncover the underlying issues of perceived indifference.
Romantic relationships hold immense significance for our emotional and physical well-being, and any perceived threat to them can lead to regression. Unfortunately, this cycle of feeling unwanted and reacting with verbal attacks can become a daily occurrence for many couples. Resulting in frustration, confusion, and pain, this lose-lose scenario tends to weaken the marital bond instead of fortifying it.
7 avoidable mistakes that may cause a woman to feel unwanted
1. Greeting her in an emotionally flat tone.
Even though you are tired and stressed out, she wants to know that you look forward to seeing her. In fact, psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini told Fox 26 Houston that it takes just 60 seconds to set the tone in your relationship.
“Whether they’re meeting you for lunch or they’re meeting you at an event or when they come home, it’s important you stop what you’re doing at least for 60 seconds and greet them,” Rapini encouraged. “Smile at them, act happy that you see them there with you.”
What to do instead: Acknowledge that it is great to be home with her before you unpack your emotions from the day.
2. Leaving her alone at a social event.
Whether they’re an introvert or extrovert, women do want to be with their guy at a social event. While no one expects you to be glued to each other’s side at all times, ditching your wife for the entire duration of the night can leave her feeling neglected.
“Good relationships are like good teams,” relationship expert and licensed psychologist Susan Orenstein, Ph.D, told PsychCentral. “you’re a couple; you chose each other and you need to be emotionally supportive in private and public.”
What to do instead: There may be times when it makes sense to separate to get caught up with an old friend or to a business network. If you check in before you separate and then circle back, she will feel connected rather than rejected. Orenstein also suggests making an effort to make eye contact and smile throughout the night, so even if you aren’t by each other’s side, you know you’re still on each other’s minds.
3. Invalidating her feelings.
There may be occasions when you don’t understand or agree with your partner’s feelings in their entirety. It may be simple to brush them off at those times. But doing so would be the equivalent of telling her that her feelings are unimportant.
Over time, this can lead her to stop trusting you, chipping away at the very foundation of your relationship.
What to do instead: In an article for PyschCentral, licensed psychologist Suzanne B. Phillips, Psy.D., ABPP gives some suggestions for how to break the cycle of invalidation, including watching the tone you use when speaking to your partner and making an honest effort to understand where she is coming from.
4. Being more animated and having more fun with friends than with her.
This sends a signal that she is not as interesting to you as other people are.
What to do instead: Bring her into fun conversations with others. Find creative ways to keep the fun alive between the two of you.
5. Not standing up for her in front of your children.
This makes her feel disempowered and can cause the kids to play favorites, and may even lead them to start disrespecting her.
What to do instead: Always stand with her in front of the children. Discuss disagreements behind closed doors. Apologize to the kids together when you are wrong.
6. Drinking more than she feels comfortable with.
If she feels embarrassed or unsafe by your drinking, it is too much — even if it is only two drinks.
What to do instead: Learn to listen to her and pull back when she says you are no longer pleasant.
7. Betraying her.
Not telling her the truth or becoming emotionally or physically involved with another person fractures every relationship. Trust is the foundation of all love relationships. This causes a deep wound of insecurity that leads her to become hyper-vigilant and question your every move.
What to do instead: Humbly admit your betrayal, ask for forgiveness and compassionately respond to her need for reassurance. Eventually, the relationship may be able to heal on its own. If not, find a therapist who can help the two of you process this strong emotion.
What to do if you’re feeling unwanted in a relationship
1. Figure out what’s causing the feeling.
First, it’s important to understand what aspects of your relationship are making you feel unwanted. Zero in on the things that trigger this feeling in you.
2. Express your feelings to your partner.
When speaking with your partner about feeling unwanted, it’s important to avoid doing so in a way that makes them feel attacked. Instead, focus on naming what you’re feeling and give specific instances and examples of what makes you feel that way using “I” statements.
3. Spend more quality time together.
Try to carve out some time for you to spend with each other. When you’re together, be mindful and present so you have the chance to re-form your emotional connection.
4. Do more of what makes you happy.
If you have the tendency to base your emotions on what your partner is feeling, focus on taking some time away for yourself to do the things that you enjoy.
5. Consider seeing a therapist.
Whether you find it hard to express your feelings or just want an unbiased and professional opinion of your relationship, try seeing a couples therapist who can help guide you back to a healthy relationship.
All relationships require a great deal of tender loving care.
Without it, they can easily spiral into boredom, disconnection, and betrayal. Loving compassion holds the bond of marriage together. Without it, the relationship will feel like an empty business arrangement.
Your love relationship is your most important source of stability, self-esteem, and prosperity. If you put your relationship with your partner as the priority, you will profit in more ways than you can imagine.
In a detailed interview on Original FM in Accra, a 24-year-old lady, acknowledging her role as the companion of a married man, shared the motivations behind her decision to maintain a relationship with someone significantly older, akin to her father’s age.
During the comprehensive discussion, she revealed that choosing mature partners offered her various advantages.
In her case, she highlighted the presence of a father figure in her life, indicating that the connection provided valuable guidance and a sense of stability.
“In my opinion, I prefer mature men than the younger ones because some of us did not get father care, so we need that love protection and understanding and that can be gotten from an older man… so, I am getting the father role and a boyfriend on the same person,” she added.
“I have seen a picture of his wife before, he actually showed it to me, they have two children together but we have never met before,” she added, stating that she started the relationship with the man when she was 20 years.
She emphasized that there was a financial component to the relationship even though, in her case, she controls her emotions because she doesn’t anticipate getting married in the near future.
“I must admit that we, the young girls are very naïve, so these sugar daddies are taking advantage of us in such relationships,” she submitted in reaction to the recent court case in which a side chick lost a case she brought before the courts against a benefactor.
In the pursuit of lasting love, avoid these common relationship mistakes:Avoid setting a negative tone in your new relationship by refraining from constant discussions about your past negative experiences with your ex.
This can unintentionally lower your partner’s expectations and lead to minimal effort. Let your new relationship develop independently without carrying the baggage of past experiences.
Instead of focusing on what went wrong in the past, allow your partner to form their own impressions and treat you based on the present.
Keep your weaknesses or easily tempted aspects to yourself: While honesty is essential in a relationship, it’s advisable not to disclose all your vulnerabilities immediately.
Revealing too much too soon can give others the opportunity to use this information against you in moments of conflict or vulnerability.
Instead, let your partner discover your strengths and weaknesses naturally over time, allowing trust to develop gradually.
Be cautious about sharing your family’s secrets:Families can be intricate, and sharing profound family secrets early on might create unnecessary tension.
If your partner doesn’t demonstrate respect for your family, it could eventually lead to a lack of respect for you.
It’s essential to establish a foundation of mutual respect and understanding before delving into sensitive family matters.
Avoid discussing your body count: Although openness is crucial in a relationship, it may not always be necessary to divulge specific information about your previous relationships, particularly when it comes to your personal life, at first.
These kinds of conversations may result in pointless judgments or comparisons. Prior to sharing delicate information about your past, concentrate on developing emotional intimacy and trust.
Encouraging open communication while keeping context and timing in mind is crucial.
Since every relationship is different, it’s important to let it grow naturally so that both parties can get to know one another in a polite and healthy way.
A healthy relationship requires effort and mutual respect. There are several signs that you might be inadvertently damaging your relationship. Here are five common signs to watch for:
Poor Communication: Communication is key in any relationship. If you or your partner are avoiding important conversations, using hurtful language, or constantly arguing without resolving issues, it can harm your relationship. Effective communication is about listening, understanding, and finding solutions together.
Lack of Trust: Trust is the foundation of a strong relationship. If you’re constantly suspicious of your partner, checking their messages, or questioning their honesty without reason, it can erode trust. Trust issues can lead to insecurity and jealousy, which can be destructive.
Neglecting Quality Time: Neglecting your partner or not spending quality time together can lead to emotional distance. If you’re consistently prioritizing other aspects of your life over your relationship, it can create feelings of neglect and resentment.
Disrespect and Criticism: Constantly belittling or criticizing your partner, either in private or in front of others, can be emotionally damaging. Respect is fundamental to a healthy relationship. Disrespectful behavior, name-calling, or constant criticism can wear down the emotional connection between partners.
Taking Each Other for Granted: Over time, it’s common for partners to become comfortable in a relationship. However, taking your partner for granted by not expressing appreciation or showing affection can lead to emotional disconnection. It’s important to continue nurturing the relationship and showing love and gratitude.
Recognizing these signs is the first step to addressing relationship issues. If you notice these behaviors, consider discussing your concerns with your partner and seeking professional help if necessary. Open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work on the relationship can help address these issues and strengthen your bond.
Mauritius has overturned a colonial-era law that criminalized same-sex relationships. The country’s Supreme Court declared Section 250 of the Mauritian Criminal Code, which dated back to 1898, as unconstitutional on Wednesday.
This law had previously made individuals engaged in same-sex relations liable to be imprisoned for up to five years.
In its ruling, the Supreme Court emphasized that the abolished law did not “reflect any indigenous Mauritian values but was inherited as part of our colonial history from Britain.”
The decision to repeal the anti-homosexuality law originated from October 2019 when four young Mauritians, representing the rights group Young Queer Alliance, filed a legal challenge against the law, citing violations of their fundamental rights and freedoms.
The United Nations and numerous human rights organizations have praised this ruling. UNAids stated in a release, “The UN welcomes the decision of Mauritius to join the growing list of African countries protecting the human rights of everyone, including LGBTQI+ people.”
With this ruling, Mauritius joins the increasing number of African nations that have either decriminalized or legalized same-sex relationships, including Angola, Botswana, Seychelles, and Mozambique.
Lack of Effective Communication: One of the most common reasons relationships don’t last is a breakdown in communication. Effective communication is vital for understanding each other’s needs, resolving conflicts, and maintaining emotional intimacy. When communication deteriorates, misunderstandings and resentment can build, leading to the deterioration of the relationship.
Unresolved Conflicts: Failing to address and resolve conflicts can erode a relationship over time. Ignoring or avoiding issues can create a toxic environment, where grievances pile up and emotional distance grows. Healthy relationships require open and honest discussions to find solutions and compromise.
Mismatched Values and Goals: Differences in core values, life goals, and priorities can lead to relationship strain. When partners have conflicting values or aspirations, it can be challenging to find common ground and build a future together. Long-term compatibility often depends on shared values and goals.
Neglecting Emotional Intimacy: Neglecting emotional intimacy can result in a lack of connection and affection between partners. Over time, this can lead to feelings of loneliness and detachment. Maintaining emotional closeness, showing affection, and spending quality time together are essential for nurturing a lasting bond.
External Pressures and Stressors: External factors such as financial challenges, family conflicts, work-related stress, or health issues can put strain on a relationship. When couples are unable to effectively cope with external pressures, it can lead to tension and a weakening of the relationship’s foundation.
It’s important to note that relationships require ongoing effort, commitment, and willingness from both partners to address these challenges. Open communication, empathy, and a shared commitment to growth can help overcome these common obstacles and contribute to the longevity of a relationship.
It’s no mystery that sometimes relationships don’t work out. Though, they don’t always end when they should.
Deborah Krevalin is using the video-sharing app Kenyans disagree on petition to outlaw TikTok to reach a wide audience with her relationship advice. As a licensed psychotherapist, Krevalin used her expertise in a recent video to shed light on the subtle signs that may indicate a breakdown in communication and connection within a romantic partnership.
This is a day in the life of a couple who has given up on each other.
Describing “a day in the life of a couple who have given up on the relationship and each other,” Krevalin paints a bleak picture of two people who have become isolated within their own relationship.
The day starts with an absence of the basic pleasantries that often fuel a couple’s connection.
No words are exchanged in the morning, and no texts or calls are made during the day.
It’s not just the morning when they isolate from each other. The partners’ lack of mutual interest manifests in their daily routine as well.
“Neither partner reaches out during the day. No text message, no phone call saying, hey, how’s your day going? What do you want to do for dinner? None of that. Partners are focused solely on themselves and their own needs,” Krevalin says.
Waking up and going through the day like this can be a harsh reality. What can a couple who are experiencing this do?
According to psychologist Sandra E. Cohen, Ph.D., people often feel isolated in a relationship due to communication. But what happens when the lack of communication doesn’t stop when they get home at the end of the day?
Dinners are eaten alone with no plans to catch up about each other’s day.
When one comes home at “6:00 with some sushi” and the other an “hour later with a salad,” there’s no intention of sharing a meal or spending time together. Instead, they eat separately, reflecting a profound disconnect. Their evenings are spent in different rooms, engaging in solitary activities.
“They don’t eat together. In fact, they don’t show any interest in spending any time together. No bonding, no nothing. They’re just merely existing, sharing space, like roommates,” Krevalin says.
What once might have been a loving relationship has transformed into a situation where two individuals are “just merely existing,” their connection lost.
The lack of interaction and engagement extends into the bedroom.
Before going off to sleep, there’s no conversation, no affectionate gestures, and not even a word of acknowledgment, whether they share a bed or sleep separately.
“The partners may sleep in separate bedrooms, but if they share a bed, there’s no chatting. There’s no snuggling. There’s no real interaction of any kind. The couple is beyond unhappy because there’s a loneliness factor that’s pervading. They’re totally disconnected,” Krevalin adds.
Krevalin’s depiction resonates as a cautionary tale, offering insight into what can happen when couples allow communication to break down and fail to prioritize their relationship.
The depiction is not merely an abstract concept but a reflection of a real crisis that many couples face.
What can be learned from Krevalin’s observations? Perhaps a warning that paying attention to the small details, the simple acts of kindness, communication, and interest in one’s partner, is crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship. And what should people who feel they are in a lonely relationship?
Cohen revealed that there are four things partners should consider when feeling lonely in a relationship. She advises to “communicate clearly and effectively, “be more vulnerable with each other,” “spend time together,” and, if all else doesn’t work, “consider the possibility of ending the relationship.”
DISCLAIMER: Independentghana.com will not be liable for any inaccuracies contained in this article. The views expressed in the article are solely those of the author’s, and do not reflect those of The Independent Ghana
Three years ago, a wealthy and well-liked man received a tip-off suggesting that his wife was involved in a romantic relationship with his chauffeur.
In response, he enlisted the services of a detective who returned with a collection of unsettling photographs capturing his wife and the driver in various luxurious settings, confirming the husband’s suspicions.
When he confronted his wife, she admitted to the affair but also claimed that her husband’s actions had driven her to it.
The man was taken aback by his wife’s explanation. Through tears, he expressed his emotions, saying, “I’ve provided homes for you, replaced your cars every two years, financed your global travels, and offered you unlimited financial resources. Why would you do this to me, and why with my driver? Why… why…”?
The truth is, many men unknowingly push their partners away. Often, we inadvertently hurt and mistreat them, disregarding the fact that women possess hearts that can be shattered by our deeds and oversights. At times, we fail to recognize our transgressions until it’s too late.
What prompts women to distance themselves?
Excluding her from discussions: In a relationship, collaborative decision-making holds significant value to a woman. This practice makes her feel appreciated and valued. A partnership built on equality fosters a stronger connection, as both partners define goals and work collectively toward achieving them.
Regrettably, many Ghanaian men hold the belief that their wisdom surpasses that of their female counterparts. Consequently, they may disregard their partner’s contributions, making her feel isolated and potentially causing her to drift away.
Neglecting to show appreciation: Women invest a great deal in their relationships. They exhibit a higher level of empathy compared to men and are often willing to make substantial sacrifices for the sake of the relationship. It’s essential for them to know that their efforts are acknowledged.
Expressing gratitude generates feelings of value, importance, affection, and desire. Simple phrases such as “I love you,” “thank you,” and “you mean so much to me” hold immense significance. Without appreciation, a woman’s motivation to give her best dwindles, leading to potential disengagement.
Treating her as you would a man: Men and women possess distinct attributes—both physically and emotionally. For instance, women tend to process words more deeply. A seemingly minor comment to a man might carry significant weight for a woman. Criticizing your male friend’s dirty shirt might be brushed off, but such a remark can deeply wound a woman. Failing to treat your partner as a unique individual can unknowingly drive her away.
Overlooking her emotional needs: Relationships are built on fulfilling needs. Among a woman’s primary requirements are affection, companionship, commitment, and financial security. She longs for romance—expressions that foster closeness, passion, and intimacy. Gentle gestures like touch, cuddling, and embraces matter immensely. Regular, spontaneous gifts serve as demonstrations of love and goodwill.
Your presence and support provide her with a positive self-image, security, and tranquility. Your significance to her transcends material possessions like cars, money, and houses. Engaging in enjoyable activities together and spending quality time enriches her experience. Your partner seeks emotional security, your honesty, openness, and reliability.
Are you unintentionally pushing your partner away?
Maintaining a strong bond with your partner hinges on seemingly small gestures such as spending time together, acts of service, physical touch, and thoughtful gifts. These seemingly modest acts are actually monumental.
Your partner yearns for your companionship more than anything else. It’s essential to treat her with the respect you’d expect for anyone you care about. By making her feel cherished as a woman, you’ll avoid pushing her away.
Elevate your partner as your foremost priority. Treating her well transforms her into an exceptional woman, enabling her to reach her full potential. Prioritize her happiness, and in turn, you’ll find your own happiness. When you ensure her well-being, you forge a truly harmonious partnership.
A woman is in tears right now because the man she thought would propose to her, marry her, and start a family with her, cut things up with her.
The lady identified as Lola has been in a relationship with this guy, also known as Ola, for sometime now, and she has always thought of him as the love of her life.
But their love life falls into a ditch when Ola texted her to inform him of the decision to end their relationship after three years simply because his friends always make fun of him when he goes to town with her.
According to Ola, Lola’s big tummy has been an issue for him, and it’s best they both go their separate ways because he can no longer stay with her.
In a series of screenshots shared by Lola on Twitter, Ola wouldn’t barge despite her pleadings for him to reconsider his decision of breaking up with her despite everything they have been through.
She even promised to work on her tummy yet still, Ola stood his ground and mentioned that he was not going to give in to her plea.
Sharing the screenshots, Lola captioned them: “To say the least, I’m broken, I couldn’t do anything quick about reducing my stomach and I lost my 3-year relationship ???.. I somehow still feel the pain till now??”
A 42-year-old mason is reportedly contemplating the release of explicit photos belonging to his 28-year-old former girlfriend. This comes after he had taken out a GHC7,000 loan on her behalf, only to be abandoned by her shortly thereafter.
The mason stated that he responded to his girlfriend’s request for assistance by obtaining the loan approximately three months into their relationship.
Nevertheless, after receiving the funds, the girl declined to answer his calls and opted to block his contact.
The mason identified as Nana said he reached out to the lady’s mother who informed him that she asked her daughter to dump him.
Speaking in an interview with Nana Yaa Brefo on Angel FM, Nana who said he never got intimate with his runaway girlfriend threatened to release explicit images of her as revenge.
“Please help me to retrieve my money from her. I found a way to gain her naked pictures, I have sisters and would not want to disgrace her.
“I was smart enough to use a different number to entice her into sending me explicit pictures of herself,” he stated.
Meanwhile, the lady has also threatened to invoke a curse on her aggrieved former boyfriend if he goes ahead to carry out the threat.
First of all, we need to talk about what a situation is. So, a situational relationship is when you and that person are more than friends but less than lovers.
A situationship is a romantic relationship that lacks clear definitions or commitment. This person acts like they’re interested in you but they won’t ask you to be their girlfriend or won’t say yes to your proposal. You get introduced as a ‘friend’ anytime you two are seen outside the closest you’ve gotten to the girlfriend or boyfriend title is ‘Bestie’.
It’s frustrating especially when you do what lovers do but you can’t claim them as yours, neither will they claim you as theirs.
It’s a painful situation to find yourself because you don’t whether you’re single or not and don’t know if you should start dating other people or not.
Well if you find yourself in such a position there may be ways to see yourself out of it.
Do what friends do; Friends don’t kiss and make out on the couch, as hard as it is because you like this person. Don’t let them use you, if they call you a friend give them the friend package and the friend package doesn’t come with kisses and cuddles.
Who will pay for a package they’re getting for free? That’s why you need them to subscribe to it and let them give you that title.
Spend less time with them; You might have caught feelings because probably you spend too much time together, they’re always at your crib or you’re both always hanging out together whatever the case is reduce the time together.
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder, but absence can also lessen attachment, your absence could make them realize that they like you or it could make you realize that you’re not as special to them as you thought you were, and though this may be hard you need to move on and find something else to occupy your time.
Like watching a movie or learning a new language just do something that will keep you away from them for a while.
Don’t push others away; Seriously, never make this mistake. Until someone makes it clear that they want you and only you don’t push others away, be open to meeting new people and if they act angry about it then do it more.
You cannot waste your youthful years on someone who cannot make a decision. Life is a short trip don’t waste it on someone who isn’t sure about you, move on.
Demand for a label; Honestly you deserve better so demand it, ask them what they want with you because you deserve to know. Everyone deserves to know where they stand, it’s frustrating when you don’t know where you stand.
It’s like someone opening a door to your room but they won’t come in neither will they go out they just stand in the doorway blocking others from coming in.
Give them the option to either back out or come in they may try to sweet talk you into giving them more benefits but stand your ground love yourself enough to say no to being used.
There’s no easy way to break away from a person you’ve built a bond with, someone with whom you thought you were going to spend forever. But trust me you don’t want to spend your forever with someone who doesn’t think you’re good enough to call you theirs.
So feel the pain but let it make you strong enough to walk away from any place you can’t call home.
It was Alexander Graham Bell who once said, “When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.”
Who knew the inventor of the telephone was so good at giving advice that can be applied to your dating life?
Now, breaking up is never really easy to do. But for some, the process of getting over a failed relationship can linger a little longer than for others, which sometimes begs the loaded question: why can it be so difficult to get over an ex?
It’s a question that leaves many reeling from a breakup befuddled as they try to move on.
Even science has attempted to solve the mystery.
Last year, Stanford University researchers found people tend to “carry a heavier burden from rejection” when they feel that who they are as a person has been revealed or exposed.
“Few things in life are more traumatic than being rejected by someone who knows you well and then, with this insight, decide that she or he no longer cares for you or wants to be with you,” Carol Dweck, professor of psychology at Stanford, said in a statement. “The experience of being left by someone who thought that they loved you, then learned more and changed their mind, can be a particularly potent threat to the self and can drive people to question who they truly are.”
Sometimes, though, the reasons why someone can’t get over an ex-partner can be a little more complicated.
“It’s hard to accept when someone doesn’t want you anymore,” relationship expert Shannon Tebb of Shanny in the City says. “It’s like an attack on your personal ego and you feel like you’ve failed at something, and it’s really hard to accept when something doesn’t work out.”
According to Tebb, there could be several factors preventing you from moving on from your ex. And once you become aware of what may be stopping you, then you may be able to finally take the steps you need to in order to bounce back from your emotional limbo.
1. You can’t face the fact that it’s over
“A lot of singles can’t completely come to terms that it’s over,” Tebb says. “So you’re maybe holding to the idea that you can still fix it. You don’t want to let go because you’re focusing on the positive times [in the relationship] and you’re not really focused on where you went wrong and why the relationship ended.”
Tebb says that sometimes people can’t accept that a relationship’s over because they didn’t see the end coming.
“They may not have noticed the signs that it was starting to fail,” she says. “So you refuse to start over because you’ve invested so much time into this relationship that you just can’t get over them.”
2. You’re keeping tabs on them
Social media has made it easier for people to keep track of those they know. This can be a problem.
“You’re still kind of creeping them out on social media, and maybe you share common friends,” Tebb explains. “You haven’t removed them from your Facebook, and you haven’t removed the old photos of you as a couple. You can’t get over your ex because you haven’t removed them fully from your life.”
Also, avoid looking up your ex. Practicing this restraint is the healthy thing to do – otherwise, it can come back to bite you when you see your ex has moved on in the form of another relationship or even marriage.
“If you’ve had an amicable breakup and you see your ex is engaged, then you can congratulate him or her and make it a positive thing,” Tebb says. “But if you’re not talking to each other and it wasn’t a good split, then feelings of jealousy will arise. You’ll get mixed emotions, which is common and normal. So if you’re feeling upset and vulnerable, you need to talk to someone who can listen to you vent. But if you are seeing stuff on social media, get off of it.”
3. You haven’t had closure
“Maybe your boyfriend ghosted you or just all of a sudden told you it’s over and hadn’t given you an explanation,” Tebb says. “So you haven’t had that closure that you needed in order to move forward.”
Whether it be with relationships, a job, or a stage in life, getting closure for any significant moment in one’s life is important, psychiatrist Abigail Brenner says.
“Closure means finality; letting go of what once was,” she wrote in Psychology Today. “Finding closure implies a complete acceptance of what has happened and an honouring of the transition away from what’s finished to something new.”
To do this, Brenner says one must grieve the loss, take responsibility for their actions, focus on the positives and make a plan for the immediate future. This, she says, will force you to make things happen and move on.
4. Low self-esteem
“It’s that fear that you’re never going to find anybody again and it’s a major fear,” Tebb says. “And it’s scary getting back out there, especially if you’ve been in a long-term relationship.”
And because people are comfortable with the familiar, it makes it all that much harder to let go.
“You believe that you’re never going to get that again,” Tebb says. “So you’d rather fix it and work on it when really you can’t change someone else’s mind. Once they tap out, it’s pretty much done.”
5. The relationship was all about the other person
Sometimes people will give up their lives for a relationship – and whether it’s by choice or not, the relationship becomes very one-sided.
So when a breakup happens, a feeling of abandonment might creep in.
“You were so enthralled with them that it’s scary to go back to your own life by yourself,” Tebb says. “It’s an adjustment – and it’s hard to adjust from something you were comfortable with. You were in your comfort zone with your partner, so the minute you’re out of that you become fearful, sad and angry.”
How to bounce back
There are a few things people can do to help them get over an ex. The first, Tebb says, is to avoid situations where you’re most likely to run into your former partner.
“If you know they always hang out at a certain bar, don’t go there,” she says. “Just try to separate yourself from places where you might bump into them.”
Tebb also advises to remove the ex-partner from social media and doing a cleanse from the home. This means getting rid of anything they left behind.
Life after divorce is a rollercoaster of emotions, akin to putting out fires all around you. Starting over post-divorce involves considering numerous factors. Once the dust settles, thoughts about dating may begin to surface.
Dating, in general, can feel like a 100-yard dash, where you aim to meet someone with whom you can spend your life. When you were single, the world might have seemed full of possibilities, and going on dates might have been exhilarating. However, dating after divorce can evoke more trepidation than a dental visit to have a tooth extracted—it can be painful and scary.
There Is Still Life After Divorce You’ve been through so much pain and loss, finding that excitement you felt about dating before you were married can now feel non-existent.
For those who fared well in the dating game before being married, dating after divorce may be seen as just a new adventure. I had a friend who jumped into online dating before her ex-husband officially moved out. She felt ready to get back in the saddle.
Then there are women like me who could not even think about dating again. My priority was healing from the pain and betrayal I had been through. In addition, I never liked the dating scene even before I was married.
I sent a powerful intention out to the Universe that I wanted to heal on a deep level so that I didn’t attract the same kind of man and/or the same relationship patterns I had found myself in. I wanted to find my soul mate, but I knew deep down that it would take me healing first.
Stop Letting External Forces Dictate Your Time
Life is time in motion. If you want to take control of your life, you must plan your time smartly.
Our Time-Smart Toolkit guide you to plan your goals and actions smartly so you can reclaim your time and take back control of your life!
17 Pieces of Dating Advice for Life After Divorce
Wait to Date This is probably not what you wanted to hear right out of the gate, but taking time to be alone is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. It’s a golden opportunity to get to know yourself and what you like and don’t like.
It gives you sacred time to heal on a deep level, something you probably have not done before. Taking your time will allow you to grieve your loss more fully.
Practice Self-Care When you take great care of yourself, you will feel good, and your confidence will increase. This will help you “attract” the person you desire.
When you feel good, your energy will attract like-minded people.
Do the Inner Work The time after divorce that I call the “Void” is the perfect time to go within and heal any limiting beliefs about love and relationships you have. If you’ve noticed you keep repeating the same patterns in your relationships or choosing the same “type” of guy, you have work to do.
Find ways to heal from within using energy and tools such as emotional freedom techniques (EFT).
Keep Your Life Separate From Your Role as a Mom Your kids do not need to be involved in that part of your life. Keeping it private will help you make decisions based on what is important to you.
Getting children involved too soon can cause avoidable pain for them. If the relationship does not last, your children don’t have to go through yet another loss.
Giving your child or children time to adjust to their new normal is a gift for them. Research shows that your rapport with your children will also impact what effects your dating has on them.
Spending time building your relationship with your children after divorce is of utmost importance.
Get Clear on What You Want What do you desire for your life? What do you desire in a significant other? How do you want your relationship to be? Do you believe it’s possible for you? (The latter question alone can help you uncover any subconscious beliefs about love, relationships, and worthiness.)
When you ask yourself this question, write down the answer you receive. Don’t worry if you feel you are making it up. The answers that do come to you are coming from your Higher Self.
Become the Person You Were Meant to Be When you do the inner work, get clear on what you desire in a partner. It’s important to embody who you need to be to attract the partner and the relationship you desire.
Begin by showing up as who you want to be. If you must fake it until you make it, that’s okay. Begin to embody being more confident if that is what you desire in a partner.
Surround Yourself With People Who Make You Feel Good Choose who you spend your time with wisely. Build a network of positive people in your life who you can trust.
When you have a supportive network, you will not feel alone in the world. This will help you feel more confident and patient in your approach to attracting a new relationship.
Stop Negative Thoughts Quickly It can become easy to think negatively especially if you’ve been through serious trauma while married and/or through the divorce proceedings.
Dating after divorce can dredge up so many emotions. It can feel like you are spiraling into doom and gloom at the thought of going on a date.
One of the most powerful ways to quickly stop negative thoughts in their tracks is to connect to your heart and breathe.
Make a List You may have heard this before, but this does work. It helps you be specific in what you desire in a partner or relationship.
List as many traits/characteristics you are looking for. Once you’ve completed your list, check the top five traits that are a must. These are things you will not negotiate.
This will help you identify quickly who you would continue to date or not.
Be Open Pay more attention to how you feel when you meet someone new. They may not be what you imagined physically, but don’t discount this person if you feel good when you are with them. You never know where it may lead.
Take Your Time Getting to Know Each Other When you do meet someone that makes you feel good, take your time getting to know each other. Research shows that the divorce rate for second marriages is higher than for first marriages.
It’s not to discourage anyone but to point out the importance of being more conscious of your decisions this time around. This can save you from future heartbreak. Don’t settle for less than you deserve.
Wait to Be Intimate With Your New Partner I’m not sure what the “rules” are for the timing of becoming intimate with a new partner. I never followed anyone else’s rules to navigate my own life. People tend to quickly become “attached” to a partner after sex, so it’s difficult for some people to detach emotionally after being intimate with someone new.
Taking your time getting to know someone and waiting until you are sure that you want to spend time with this person will help you think more clearly. You can make your decisions more objectively this way.
Be Okay With Being Alone Surrender to being alone. Society puts so much pressure on singles to couple up, but there is nothing inherently wrong with you if you have no desire to be in a relationship or you want to take your time.
It’s better to be single than be in an unhappy partnership.
Set a Powerful Intention Once you know you are ready to meet someone new, set a powerful intention for what you desire. Writing it down gives it more power. Your intention is like a magnet drawing to you your deepest heart’s desire.
You Will Know When You Are Ready to Date You will know how you feel. If you dread getting back out there and meeting new people, then you aren’t ready—and that’s okay.
You are the only one who knows how you feel inside. Trust your inner wisdom to show you the way.
Just like when someone walks into a new home and knows instantly it is their house, you will feel it when you are ready to meet someone new.
Prepare to Meet Your New Partner When you are finally ready to meet someone new and someone you desire a relationship with, make the changes now that are bound to happen in the future anyway.
For instance, clear out one side of your closet to make space for your new partner’s clothes. Change your bed or bedding to shift the energy to allow someone new in your bed.
Date for More Than Two Years Before You Consider Remarrying It takes at least 1.5 years to truly get to know someone.Taking your time getting to know each other is essential to a successful union.
It’s a great time to ask important questions about parenting styles, finances, extended family, career goals, and what is most important for each of you.
Final Thoughts Whether you are ready to date now or not, remember that the dating life after divorce can be what you want it to be. You just need to be clear on what you desire, set your intention, prepare for what you want, and allow it to come to you.
The best piece of advice I have for you is to trust the process.
Love is a complex emotion that can fill our hearts with joy, but when doubts arise about its authenticity, it can leave us feeling confused and hurt. If you suspect that your partner’s love might be pretence, it’s essential to pay attention to subtle signs that could validate your concerns. Here are five indicators that your partner may not genuinely love you:
1.Inconsistent Words and Actions: Pay attention to whether their words match their actions. True love is demonstrated through consistent affection, support, and care. If their actions contradict their declarations of love, it may be a red flag worth exploring further.
2.Avoidance of Communication: Open and honest communication is vital in any healthy relationship. If your partner avoids serious conversations and consistently uses busyness as an excuse, it could indicate a lack of genuine love and investment in the relationship.
3. Selfishness: A partner pretending to love you might exhibit selfish behavior, constantly putting their needs ahead of yours without considering your feelings. Love should involve a balance of give and take, not just one-sided self-centeredness.
4. Unnecessary Jealousy: While jealousy can be normal, excessive and irrational jealousy is a warning sign of a toxic partner. If they isolate you from loved ones or constantly monitor your activities, it may indicate underlying issues.
5. Inconsistency: If your partner’s affection fluctuates dramatically, going from loving to hostile, it can be confusing and emotionally draining. Genuine love remains steady and constant, even during difficult times.
Recognizing these subtle signs can help you assess the authenticity of your relationship and make informed decisions about your future. Remember that healthy relationships are built on trust, communication, and genuine care for each other’s well-being.
Couples therapy exercises can be beneficial in strengthening the emotional connection and communication between partners. Here are seven exercises you can try with your spouse:
Active Listening: Sit facing each other and take turns sharing your thoughts and feelings while the other partner listens attentively without interrupting. After one partner finishes speaking, the listener summarizes what they heard before sharing their own perspective.
Appreciation Exercise: Each partner takes turns expressing appreciation and gratitude for something their spouse has done. This exercise helps foster a positive atmosphere and encourages acknowledgment of each other’s efforts.
Relationship Vision: Together, discuss and create a shared vision of your ideal relationship. Talk about your long-term goals and aspirations, and ensure they are aligned to create a sense of shared purpose.
Conflict Resolution: Choose a past conflict that you both feel comfortable discussing. Take turns expressing your feelings, needs, and concerns about the issue while actively listening to your partner’s perspective. Look for common ground and work together to find a resolution.
Love Maps: This exercise involves learning more about each other’s preferences, hopes, and dreams. Create a list of questions to ask each other and take turns answering them to deepen your understanding of each other.
Role Play: Reenact a past situation or conflict using role play. This allows you to gain insight into each other’s perspectives and emotions during challenging moments and find more effective ways to communicate and empathize.
Stress-Reducing Activities: Engage in activities that help reduce stress and promote relaxation together. This could include practicing mindfulness exercises, going for a walk, or doing a fun activity that you both enjoy.
Remember that couples therapy exercises are most effective when approached with openness, empathy, and a willingness to work together to improve your relationship. If you find that your relationship is facing significant challenges, seeking professional guidance from a licensed couples therapist may also be beneficial.
Ghanaian dancer, Incredible Zigi, has revealed that he used to date numerous women in the early days of his dancing career.
During an interview with the media, he admitted to his past as a womanizer but expressed that he has now chosen to change his ways.
He emphasized that not all dancers are womanizers, but he has decided to put an end to his previous behavior.
“I used to date a lot of women earlier in my career but when you get to a certain stage you want to keep a solid brand so such women issues just don’t get your attention anymore. You can’t just be playing around like you used to because womanizing wouldn’t take you anywhere but I used to womanize when I started dancing.
Incredible Zigi emphasized that he has successfully abandoned such behaviors, acknowledging that they were merely “time-wasters.”
He has learned from his past and has now chosen to focus on more meaningful aspects of his life and career.
“But this is not the time to waste time and energy chasing after women so as for me I’ve paused those kinds of behaviors some years back,” he disclosed on the show.
A well-known Ghanaian socialite, content developer, and relationship guru, Abena Manokekame, has disclosed that despair drove her to create a successful relationship platform on Facebook and other social media platforms.
With the introduction of social media and the internet in both the first and third worlds, there are numerous paths and chances for people to explore and create important effects through the creation of content.
Even while some use it for deviant propagation, there are a few who use their power and connections to put smiles on people’s faces and make a difference in their lives.
During an interview with the media on July 19, 2023, renowned Ghanaian socialite, content creator, and relationship expert, opened up about how her experience with depression in 2016 inspired her to create a popular Facebook relationship page.
Amid her moment of depression, Abena found solace in social media, where she began posting questions and thoughts that crossed her mind. Surprisingly, the responses she received from her followers provided her with the motivation to continue, despite facing her own relationship and job challenges.
Social media became her sanctuary, allowing her to find clarity and express her thoughts without judgment. Although her posts were initially driven by her struggles with depression and heartbreak, her followers and readers perceived it as a safe space to share their own experiences.
This eventually led to the emergence of the famous anonymous posts that took over Facebook some years ago.
Despite her journey from depression to inspiration, Abena Manokekame candidly shared that she encounters a barrage of negativity from social media users and fellow socialites in the country on a daily basis.
However, she empathizes with those who project negativity, understanding that it may be a result of the difficult situations they are facing. Having experienced heartbreak and depression herself, she can relate to their struggles and tries to offer compassion and understanding in response to their negative comments.
The significance of sacrifice in a relationship may be challenging to measure precisely, but its undeniable importance underscores the need for adjustments and compromises to foster a healthy and satisfying partnership. True essence of sacrifice lies in the smaller gestures, as sacrifices in relationships need not always be grand or monumental acts.
While every relationship is unique, here are some examples of sacrifices that are often considered worthy:
Time and attention Relationships require time and effort. You may need to sacrifice some personal time or prioritize your partner’s needs over your own at times. This could involve spending less time on hobbies or adjusting your schedule to accommodate quality time together.
Personal ambitions Sometimes, individuals need to sacrifice or adjust their personal goals or ambitions to support their partner’s aspirations. This doesn’t mean giving up everything, but rather finding a balance that allows both partners to pursue their dreams while supporting each other.
Independence Sacrificing a certain level of independence is natural in a committed relationship. It may involve making joint decisions, consulting with your partner before making major choices, or considering their perspective when making individual choices.
Comfort zone Stepping out of your comfort zone is often necessary for personal growth and relationship development. You might need to sacrifice the familiar and embrace new experiences or activities that your partner enjoys.
Emotional vulnerability Being vulnerable and open in a relationship can require sacrificing emotional defences. It involves sharing your thoughts, feelings, fears, and insecurities, which can be challenging but very crucial for building trust and intimacy.
The news that “love rat” actor Andrew Buchan had been taken back by Amy Nuttall, the wife he left in January for another woman, was the topic of conversation last week. Since then, it has been the most talked-about topic around water coolers — topping Meghan’s hat and shorts ensemble, rude lousy Australians, and “What is the weather doing?” — not because of the happy ending but rather because of Nuttall’s extensive list of requirements for returning Buchan. And one particular requirement has caught our attention: that the couple follow the 777 Rule moving forward.
The 777 Rule states that you should go out on a date every seven days, take a night away every seven weeks, and take a romantic vacation together every seven months. Although it may sound a little prescriptive and having an à deux vacation almost twice a year may be excessive, we understand the objective. The wheels could come off if you don’t perform the routine maintenance, and you would regret the resulting auto accident.
Nevertheless, you don’t have need to be mending a relationship to embrace the 777 Rule; you might just want to keep it going or you might want to use it in other aspects of your life.
Relationship maintenance
Every seven days you change out of your WFH uniform into something less loose and comfy. Every seven weeks you do something about your upper lip and toenails. Every seven months you book a table for two in the pub and make a note not to mention one of the seven banned topics. These will vary a bit but will generally include: why you listened to Porky Burlington about the mortgage and not Us; and why are we going to your third cousin’s wedding in Stornaway when we could have been staying with the Whatsits in Greece?
Friendship maintenance
Every seven days you send a text. Every seven weeks you make a plan. Every seven months you meet up. (If you’re doing this with 12 friends you’re reasonably busy).
Diet
Every seven days you weigh yourself (any more frequently and the week is ruined). Every seven weeks you ban carbs and aim not to eat anything before midday. Every seven months you go for a long stretch of being practically vegetarian and eating fermented foods, or whatever the latest advice is (could be eat meat only and skip the veg). Then repeat.
Drinking
Every seven days you take a day off. Every seven weeks you have four alcohol-free days (even if this has been precipitated by a very heavy weekend with the Whatsits). Every seven months you do Dry January/June – Whatever, or make a really good stab at it.
Exercise
You stretch your calves at your workstation once every seven hours. You attend Pilates or a similar class once every seven days. Every seven weeks, you make a list of the sessions you have missed and why (drinking during Dry June), and you commit to a weekly schedule by signing up with a dependable partner or by making a large upfront payment. The former is more secure.
Parenting young adults
Every seven days you send a “Just checking in” message. Every seven weeks you send a Fam Whatsapp message announcing you are definitely organising a family holiday and asking for dates. Every seven months you panic and book them all non-refundable tickets to Cornwall and a theatre performance featuring Jodie Comer/Paul Mescal (aka actors they will show up for).
Work
You change from idle state to full engine firing every seven days. Every seven weeks, you arrive at work before anyone else and are already seated at your desk, typing furiously. Every seven months, you put on your best outfit and carry yourself with confidence to give the impression that you are interviewing for a job, and they shouldn’t be taking you for granted.
In his memoir ‘Adjetey Anang: A story of Faith, Imperfection and Resilience’, launched on his 50th birthday, Adjetey Anang revealed his experience of heartbreak in secondary school.
He had developed feelings for a fellow student whom he hoped would become his girlfriend. However, she unexpectedly left Ghana for South Africa without any indication, leaving him heartbroken.
In the book, Adjetey Anang fondly described her as “pretty and sweet,” and he cherished their time together.
However, due to the caution required in their school environment, they refrained from displaying too much affection. Instead, they enjoyed each other’s company outside of school, spending time together at home as close friends.
“One day”, he began to narrate how the shock was served, “…during the holidays, I paid her a visit but she was absent.”
The lady’s sister delivered the news, questioning why she hadn’t informed him about her departure.
“She hadn’t informed me she was travelling,” he said, describing the circumstance as “incredulous”.
“I was crushed and disappointed. I felt a deep pain in my heart all through the holidays,” he said on page 33 of the book. “I kept wondering why she didn’t tell me anything. Was it something I said or did? I had pondered over this for a while till I let the whole matter rest.”
In his book, he recounted a recent interaction with the same woman on social media.
“I didn’t hesitate to ask her why she did what she did. She was sorry she had left like that and didn’t know how to spill the beans. It wasn’t an easy time for her because she was doing away from me. We had some good laughs about it in the end though,” he recalled.
Adjetey Anang who is married to Elom Anang for sixteen years, has a son named Ryan-Dew Adjei Edem Anang, to whom his memoir is dedicated.
The memoir chronicles Adjetey Anang’s path to fame, highlighting his influence, life lessons, challenges, and the personal sacrifices that have shaped him throughout the years.
It provides insights into the relatable individual behind the diverse and captivating screen characters he has portrayed, including the renowned Pusher from the iconic TV series Things We Do for Love.
Rejection is an unavoidable aspect of the dating process, as individuals have distinct preferences and reasons for accepting or declining romantic advances.
Despite the importance of respecting a woman’s choice, it can be useful to be aware of some typical reasons why she might say ‘no’ to a man outright.
Here are three potential reasons:
Lack of Compatibility:
A woman rejecting a man is frequently done for the perception that they are incompatible.
In order to be compatible, two people must share similar values, interests, aspirations, and lifestyles. A woman might decide it is best to reject a man’s advances if she senses that they do not align with her core values and beliefs.
This can include divergent political or religious beliefs, aspirations for the future, or even dissimilar hobbies and interests.
A relationship can only succeed if the two people involved are truly compatible and have common interests.
Absence of Physical or Emotional Attraction:
Relationships between two people are significantly influenced by their emotional and physical attraction. If a woman does not have a true attraction to a man, she might reject him.
Personal preferences, unique tastes, and chemistry can all have an impact on physical attraction.
Similar to physical attraction, emotional attraction entails a deeper bond based on shared beliefs, a feeling of emotional empathy, and respect for one another.
In order to avoid leading a man on or getting into a relationship without real feelings, a woman may decide to reject a man’s advances if she does not feel any of these attractions toward him.
Prioritizing Independence and Personal Goals:
Many women in contemporary society place a high value on their independence, personal development, and professional goals.
Before settling down in a romantic relationship, some women may decide to give their attention to their own needs, objectives, and personal growth.
In these situations, a woman might decline a man’s advances because she wants to put her own journey first and is not yet ready or willing to devote her time and energy to a romantic relationship.
It is important to respect a woman’s choice and give her the room she requires to pursue her individual goals.
When your girlfriend or partner starts exhibiting signs of frustration or dissatisfaction in the relationship, it is natural to question what might have gone wrong. If she begins giving you attitude, here are five potential reasons that could be contributing to the change:
You stopped being the guy she fell for
Not many things are as annoying and tiring for women as inconsistency. If you blew hot at the beginning of the relationship, you should keep that up. Don’t switch up on her negatively when the relationship finally begins.
Keep being sweet to her, keep communicating, keep being supportive, keep looking out for her, keep being the driven, passionate guy… because if you stop being the partner she met and fell for, don’t be surprised if she no longer wants anything to do with you.
You’re cheating on her
Obviously, cheating is a game-changer. If you are a serial, unrepentant cheat, your partner would surely want to get out.
No woman deserves the emotional imbalance of dealing with a fornicating, no-holds-barred cheat.
And to be honest, that’d be the right thing to do.
Your priorities changed
Do you still show her she’s special? Do you still hold her in high esteem and make it obvious in the things you do and the decisions you take?
If the answer to that is no, she may seek a way out. No one wants to play second fiddle or be placed so low on the list of priorities and what you hold dear.
If your friends, job and pretty much everything comes before your woman all the time, it won’t be long before she gets fed up.
Bad sex
If your sex game is not A1, there’s every chance that the dissatisfaction will brew over at some point and cause her to seek a way out of the relationship.
Not many women want to be tied for life to men who are capable of only mediocre sex. If they can avoid it, they will. And your babe looking for a way out could be as a result of this, too.
Respect
Did you stop respecting her as a person? Do you throw her opinions back in her face or don’t bother asking for her input on issues that affect you both? Do you try to control her life and dismiss her own opinions on matters that concern her?
Then surely you deserve to be tossed in the bin. And it may be only a matter of time
Many individuals, particularly women, desire assurance and certainty that they hold an exclusive position in a relationship, except for those who willingly choose to be involved as “side chicks.”
Indeed, regardless of the circumstances, individuals still seek reassurance that the conditions under which they entered into a relationship or situationship have remained unchanged. It is a common desire for people to feel valued and cherished not only at the beginning of a relationship but throughout its entirety, with the hope that the connection will endure indefinitely.
So how exactly does one give assurance to his girlfriend or the woman in his life?
PRO TIP: You don’t have to have ₦30 billion in the account to do any of these.
1. Assure her that she’s the only one
Look her in the eye, tell her she’s the only one. Hold her face in your hands as you say so. Be close enough for the timbre of your voice to create gentle echoes in her heart and spread into every tiny bit of her consciousness.
She needs to be reassured that despite how rough life can get sometimes, she’s still the one you with whom you want to find calmness, the one with whom, and in whose arms you want to enjoy *-the peace and tranquility that always comes after the storm.
And mean it every time you say it.
2. Reassure her that she’s beautiful
Yes, her beauty drew you in. The alignment of her eyes and nose and lips and the way her smile lit something inside you and made your heart skip like a lamb… it all made you die for her. And it wasn’t until you got her that you felt alive again.
Never let her forget this. You need to always reassure her that she’s still beautiful, that time has not put a film too thick in your eyes to stop you from seeing how pretty she is.
The problem is that guys often forget this. They often become numb to the beauty their babes are. Don’t be that guy who forgets to melt at the terrific beauty he’s been blessed with. Always remind yourself of how lucky you are and let her know about it. Other guys may say it, but she needs it for you.
3. Assure her with gifts
Ok. You may think I do not have ₦30Billion in your account but you actually do not need a Porsche before to impress your girl.
Little gifts, grand gifts, and everyone you give within your means to please your girl are assurances that you have her in your mind and that she’s special.
Don’t ever forget to keep assuring her.
4. Reassure her of the future
She wants to be sure that this is not just about the here and now.
Sure, everyone wants to live in the moment and it’s good to not overthink things, but she also needs reassurances that the future is secure and she’s not just wasting her today with you.
5. Show it
Every action that confirms your love to her, never hesitate to do them. The goal is to never let her forget, to never let things get into doubt.
Popular Nigerian author and activist Reno Omokri has advised men to seek out money rather than pleading for a woman to accept their meagre lifestyle.
The activist said women are naturally created to move towards where they can enjoy soft life.
In a tweet on Monday, June 26, the activist observed the popular phrase, “gold digger,” which is being used by some men to describe ladies who rely on them for financial support.
He likened money and poverty to salt and sugar referring to ladies as ants who will always go for the sugar because of its sweetness.
His post reads, “It is only men who don’t understand natural and spiritual principles that think women are gold diggers. Let me ask you a question.
“If you put salt and sugar on a table, what will an ant go for? Of course, sugar! God designed ants to follow sweetness. And God designed women to follow success. That is why He created Eve for Adam only after Adam became a successful gardener.
“Not BEFORE. After. Just as it is unnatural for an ant to go after salt, likewise, it is unnatural for a woman to be attracted to failure. So, go and make money and stop expecting unnatural, unspiritual, and unscientific expectations from women!”
Reno Omokri, a Nigerian author and social media influencer, has expressed his opinion that a person’s financial status is the sole determining factor for their eligibility for marriage.
Reno claimed that being financially capable is the only requirement for marriage, as opposed to not being old enough or having good looks.
He made reference to the olden days stating that men without a farm never thought about having a wife.
Reno argues that it would be detrimental for a man to marry a woman who would eventually be forced into poverty and suffering.
Instead of worrying about the “bedroom,” Reno urged men to concentrate on their future and the challenges they are facing.
He wrote: “Your eligibility for marriage has nothing to do with your age or looks. One factor dominates determines if you are eligible for marriage. Your financial chemistry. Even in the olden days, a man without a farm had no business thinking about a wife. It is self harm to bring somebody’s daughter to join you in your suffering. Stop thinking of the bedroom and start focusing on the boardroom!”
Read the comments that trailed his tweet below:
IOnwuachusi: “This is the most reasonable thing you’ve said ever since you started attacking LP and Peter Obi”
Official_Camzik: “Your opinion is good and advisable sir, but reality has a way of playing its game. We have people that married while being poor with less education degree and live happily till today and we have people who divorce despite being wealthy and educated. Thanks.”
HollyJunaid: “Financial chemistry #Wisdom, come and hear this ooo”
ogo_ibadan: “Perfectly said brother”
jacobdumuje: “Bitter truth”
ugwuanyi_i: “Reno my real guy!”
Your eligibility for marriage has nothing to do with your age or looks. One factor dominates determines if you are eligible for marriage. Your financial chemistry. Even in the olden days, a man without a farm had no business thinking about a wife. It is self harm to bring…— Reno Omokri (@renoomokri) June 20, 2023
Ghanaian rapper Amerado has opened up about his interest in dating women who are older than him
In a recent interview with popular radio host Nana Romeo, the artiste emphasised the importance of maintaining a reasonable age gap and avoiding extreme differences, such as dating someone the age of his mother.
Amerado pointed out that if one were to analyse his dating history, one would notice that none of his partners have been younger than him. He has a natural inclination towards women who possess more life experience and maturity.
“My genuine preference lies in being attracted to women who are older than me, regardless of societal norms. However, it is important to note that the age gap should not be extreme, such as someone the age of my mother, but rather a reasonable difference of a year or a few years,” he said.
Contrary to popular misconceptions, Amerado clarified that his preference is not about exploiting older women, commonly referred to as ‘sugar mummies,’ for financial gain.
He emphasised that his attraction is genuine and stems from a desire to connect with someone who has acquired valuable life experiences and possesses a certain level of maturity.
“If you observe the women I have dated, you will find that none of them are younger than me. I gravitate towards women who are older,” he added.
Amerado also made it clear that his dedication to his craft as a rapper and his drive to succeed in his career contradicts the notion of solely relying on financial support from wealthy partners.
He emphasised that he works diligently and passionately, which demonstrates his commitment to his craft and his independence.
“It is not about taking advantage of sugar mummies for financial gain; rather, it is a genuine attraction to someone with more life experience and maturity,” he stated.
A recent study published in the Journal of Biobehavioral Medicine suggests that engaging in disagreements or arguments with your partner may have potential benefits for both individuals and their relationship. The study reveals that couples who exhibit similar fighting styles are more likely to experience longer and healthier lives.
The researchers studied 192 couples for a time period of over 32 years, and the aim of this study was to figure out how a person’s behaviour impacts their partner’s mortality. Each couple was asked questions related to how they react to a conflict in their relationship. Do they like to bottle up their emotions, isolate themselves, overreact to the situation or prefer to blurt out whatever is going on in their mind?
The researchers concluded that couples who have a similar way of responding to a fight tend to live longer than the ones who have different response styles. For instance, if a partner prefers to vent out his or her anger and the other does the same, they have a greater chance of leading a longer life.
The researchers also opined that the best way to deal with a conflict is to talk it out rather than bottling up your emotions. Staying silent on things that bother you never lead to a solution, right?
Well, people who express their true feelings and opinions to their partner tend to have fewer fights and figure out mutually-acceptable decisions. Most importantly, venting out emotions helps to understand your partner and relationship better, and has a positive impact on your spouse’s health.
So, the next time you have an argument with your partner, pay attention to the way you both respond to the situation. In case you feel dissatisfied after the conflict is over or notice you have different ways to cope with it, it’s a good time to discuss this subject with your significant other.
If you’ve been engaging in ongoing text conversations with a girl you’re interested in, you may be seeking ways to increase the romanticconnection between you.
Texting her about saucy subjects is a great way to build suspense and get her excited for when you two meet again. In this article, we’ve listed some messages you can use to build sexual tension and leave a girl wanting more, even when you’re not together in person.
“You have such a beautiful smile.”
Start out slowly by telling her something you like about her. If you’re still feeling things out, stick to things about her personality or her facial features. If there’s already been a bit of sexual tension between you two, you might try complimenting her body or her physical features. Flattery goes a long way, and hearing something nice might just get her thinking about you in a different way. Try something like:
“I like how smart (spontaneous, adventurous, intelligent…) you are!”
“I loved your outfit yesterday.”
“That pic you posted of you in a bikini looks amazing.”
2. “I had a dream about you last night.”
Build up a little mystery with this text. Tell her that you had a dream about her, but don’t reveal what, exactly, she was doing. Even if you didn’t have a dream about her, you can still send this message to pretend like you did. Try teasing her with messages like:[2]
“I had a crazy dream about you last night! You will not believe what you were doing.”
“You tired from running through my mind all night? I had a super long dream about you!”
3. “Wanna cuddle?”
This is a bit more innocent, but it can lead to steamier messages. If you two haven’t quite crossed the intimacy threshold (maybe you aren’t quite sure she’s that into you yet), tell her how chilly you are and that you wish she was there to cuddle. If she’s into it, she might ask something like, “Oh, just cuddling?”[3]
You might also say something like, “Wish you were here to warm me up.”
Or, “I’m gonna go to sleep. I wish we were cuddling right now.”
4. “I can’t wait for our date tomorrow.”
Tell her how excited you are for your next date or hang. This will get her thinking about when she sees you next, and she might even start thinking about what she wants to do with you. You can get specific if you’d like, or you can be a little vague by saying:[4]
“Can’t wait to see your pretty face on Friday.”
“I’m so excited to spend the weekend with you. We’re gonna be worn out by the end of it.”
5. “I can’t stop thinking about you.”
Maybe even mention that thoughts of her have been distracting you. If you’ve already been intimate together, you could even mention a specific scenario that keeps running through your mind. These kinds of messages will probably get her excited, and she might even tell you what she can’t stop thinking about, too. Try something like:[5]
“Couldn’t sleep because I kept thinking about you last night.”
“Can’t stop thinking about our last date. I had so much fun with you.”
“I’m about to get in the shower.”
6. Get her thinking about you in the nude with this simple message. If you have to pause your conversation for a few minutes, let her know that you’re off to take a hot, steamy shower, but you won’t be long. If she likes you, she might reply with an even saucier message, which is your cue to take it to the next level. You might also try something like:[6]
“I’ll be right back, I’m about to get naked (and take a shower).”
“I won’t be gone long! Just gonna go think about you in the shower real quick.”
7. “Hey, you up?”
Send her this one late at night to see what she’s doing. People tend to get a little more intimate with others after the sun goes down, so it can be a good time to send her a message. Asking her if she’s awake lets her know that you want to talk, even though you should probably both be sleeping right now. You could also say something like:[7]
“Hey cutie, you awake?”
“You dreamin’ about me yet?”
8. “What are you wearing?”
Her answer might just start a spicy conversation. If it’s late at night or you know she’s in bed, send her a message asking what she has on right now. If she sends you a message back describing it, it probably means she’s into you (especially if it’s something sexy, like lingerie). You might also try:[8]
“Wearing anything sexy right now?”
“What are you wearing under your dress?”
9. “I wish you were here right now.”
You might even talk about what you’d do to her if she was here right now. This is a good message to use after you’ve already teased her a little bit or talked about your next date. You can describe (in detail, if you’d like) how badly you wish she was here right now, and what you’d be willing to do to get her here. Say something like:[9]
“Oh, what I’d do if you were here with me…”
“Really wish you were with me right now. I can’tstop thinking about you.”
10. Now it’s her turn to send you a sexy message. If she likes how the conversation is going, send her a question asking what she wishes she could do to you right now. When she answers, you can respond with positive reinforcement, telling her how much you wish you were doing that right now. You could also try:[10]
“Anything you wish you could do to me right now?”
“How would you feel if I kissed you?”
11. Sprinkle in a few flirtatious emojis.
The right emojis can get her brain spinning and hear heart racing. You don’t need to add an emoji to every message (that can be a little much), but 1 or 2 sprinkled throughout your conversation can really amp up your message. If you send something risque, don’t be afraid to throw in a winky face or a devil face to make your intentions clear.[11]
For instance, you might say, “What would you do if I was there right now?”
Prophet Kumchacha, the Founder and Leader of Heaven’s Gate Ministries, Nicholas Osei, has once again made a stir on social media by delivering a series of controversial statements.
Prophet Kumchacha, who intends to contest for the presidency in 2024, has revealed that hardship in the country has forced young ladies to date, multiple men.
He told Amansan Krakye, the host, that majority of ladies nowadays keep more than one boyfriends just to be able to make ends meet.
“Most of the youth are so hungry in this country because of the hardships and difficulties from bad governance. Due to the hardship in the system, if you pick about 100 ladies in Ghana it is only 20 of them that have only one boyfriend,” he claimed.
“The rest of the 80 ladies left have multiple boyfriends with some having as many as four to five simultaneously,” he added.
Buttressing his point further, he added, “Because they should have those who buy phones for her, those who pay her rent allowance and those who pay for her hairdo due to the hardships.
A sex coach,Dzifa Sweetness, revealed that beautiful music is one of the finest ways for individuals to have sex and achieve orgasm.
According to her a lot of ladies including herself, lost their virginity while having sex with music.
She added that “music calms the nerves and it makes you feel relaxed. it also works on the brain and women are mostly moved by what they hear. so, music being a form of communication is a great way to make sex more enjoyable.”
According to her, most men are bad with communication duringsexso sometimes what helps them communicate with women is music.
“the words in some of the songs is what plays a trick on us, and helps us reach orgasm. so, you can’t just play any song and expect good results,” she said.
She emphasized that the music being played should not be loud but should be on a low tune.
“finally, the kind of music that will be used matters because some of songs will never make you reach orgasm when you listen to them whiles making love. so, it is very important to select very good music for love making,” she stated.
The Ghana Universities Journal recently organized a virtual discussion that delved into the subject of premarital sex.
The two-hour discussion featured relationship expert Rev Regina Boakye and guest speaker Mr. Daniel Fenyi.
Rev Regina Boakye highlighted that engaging in sex before marriage is against biblical teachings.
She believes that the moment two opposite sexes engage in sex before marriage, their souls are tied together and it takes God’s intervention for their deliverance.
On the other hand, Mr. Daniel Fenyi argued that although it is morally and spiritually not right, it is logically important to engage in sex before marriage to comprehensively know your partner’s sexual health status.
Fenyi stated that it takes two individuals to know each other well and for partners to know who they are getting married to, it’s essential to engage in sex before marriage.
However, he stressed the importance of being responsible for one’s sexual life to avoid negative effects such as sexually transmitted diseases.
Rev Regina Boakye also advised participants to look out for specific qualities before selecting a life partner.
She mentioned that a hospitable, honest, and supportive partner with the same faith and shared values is essential.
She also emphasized that relationships should be built on strong communication since communication is the foundation of a strong relationship.
The Ghana Universities Journal is a group of tertiary students who engage industry players, stakeholders, and the government to offer constructive criticism and solutions to impact the generation.
The virtual discussion was an opportunity for young adults to explore different perspectives on the topic of sex before marriage and gain insights into building strong relationships.
American television personality Steve Harvey has counseled men seeking a committed relationship to refrain from asking their partners what they bring to the table.
According to him, it’s wrong for this young generation of men to ask women what they bring to the table.
“A woman can make another you, it’s our job to take care of a woman and some children,” he said.
Speaking in an interview with Black Millionaires, Steve said it is the responsibility of men to take care of women and not the other way around.
“That is what is wrong with this generation today, the young boys today, what does she bring to the table? What the hell do you mean man? What does your ass bring to the table? You got a woman that can come to the table that can make another you, what else that she need to slide up to the table with? What about your job? What happened to men that were supposed to be responsible? Do you know it is our (Men) to take care of women, children, and our family? That is our damn job” he said.
Harvey is part of a broader conversation about gender equality and the role of women in relationships and society as a whole.
Many people argue that women should not be judged solely on their ability to contribute financially or in other material ways, but rather on their character, values, and other intangible qualities that make them valuable partners.
Overall, Harvey’s advice encourages men to shift their thinking and approach to relationships and focus on building meaningful connections with women based on mutual respect, understanding, and shared values, rather than on traditional gender roles or expectations.
Nigerian talent manager cum producer, Soso Soberekon, has shared his thoughts on how ladies can detect if their partners are contributing to their problems.
The talent manager, in an Instagram post, stated that men who leave their girlfriends to figure out problems all by themselves are red flags.
He said male partners are supposed to share their ladies’ problems with them adding then that’s what a real man does.
When a woman tells her partner about her problems and he asks what she intends to do, Soso contends that she should be aware that he is just one of the many issues she has.
He wrote: “When you tell your boyfriend ur problems and he says, “What Are you going To Do”? Just Know You’re Dating One Of Ur Problems.”
The post has since garnered mixed reactions among social media users as they shared varied opinions about Soso’s comments.
Check out the reactions below:
oluwakemi._o: “So true. Even if he no geh money make E geh sense always having a strategy to tackle d problem.”
anike_modupeopla: “My head don full for relationship advice! Make Una give me food chop”
ddashnblushmakeovers: “Him asking what are you going to do might be that he wants to hear your feedback concerning the issue before he shares his idea/opinion. Even as a lady if u get problem & na to just carry am go meet your BF wey no be ur papa, u sef na problem them suppose avoid you. R/ship adviser…”
iamballing1122: “He didn’t lie. Person wey love you no go leave you with you problems. It’s applicable to both genders though.”
wendy_adamma: “Omo! If someone close to shares their personal problem with me. It instantly becomes what are “we” going to do.”
chaaretea: “Haba na , some people are actually honestly clueless, they don’t want to seem like there’re suggesting, so they’ll ask you what you want to do , then possibly work hand in hand with you for positive results .”
gatsegwasi: “I once dated someone like this. He never had any advise for me no matter what the challenge was. Narrate the situation and watch him say so what are you going to do now? Those words annoyed me so much. Imagine going over and beyond for someone and he gives you this response when it’s you.”
Popular media personality Nana Yaa Brefo has expressed her disgust over recent reports of a police inspector who allegedly killed his lover due to allegations of infidelity and debt.
Ahmed Tumasi, who is reportedly married with kids, allegedly shot and killed his lover in front of her residence in Adum, Kumasi, after he suspected she was cheating, reports say.
The issue, which has since been of national interest has since sparked massive reactions on social media.
Some netizens have sided with the suspect and others have condemned his actions and are calling for justice.
However, Nana Yaa Brefo, during her show on Angel FM, decided to tackle the issue from various angles.
In her first submission, she furiously condemned the police inspector’s act of killing the young woman, adding that there should be no justification whatsoever for it.
Nana Yaa Brefo, who thinks the suspect has no moral right to take someone’s life, expressed that men would have been in trouble if women equally killed their cheating partners.
The popular broadcaster emphasized that women equally spend money on ‘cheats’ but do not resort to ending their lives.
“Men would’ve been finished in Ghana if women decided to kill for cheating. Whether politicians, pastors, judges, like by now they are all finished! Such rubbish! Women are equally spending lots of money on their men who cheat, have they been killed?” she queried.
She also slammed the deceased’s mother for what she described as condoning and encouraging her daughter to milk the suspect dry.
“Some women are fond of encouraging wrongdoings. You know very well what your daughter is doing isn’t right but you were silent. You were even pushing her into it. I wonder what went on in the house during Christmas. I’m trying to imagine the gifts they received from the man. In Ghana here, I don’t know why we condone stupid relationships such as these. Look at the emotional stress he is putting his wife through,” she added.
Reports coming in from Adum, Kumasi, state that the life of a young lady, identified as Maadwoa, has been cut short by her boyfriend, who shot her five times.
Maadwoa was pronounced dead at the scene.
The police are on a manhunt for the male suspect who murdered his partner after a misunderstanding.
Friends and sympathizers have taken to social media to mourn the death of Maadwoa and are demanding justice for her bereaved family.
A report by Kessben TV revealed that the sad incident took place on the evening of Thursday, April 20, 2023 at the forecourt of Dufie Towers in Adum.
Check out some of the reactions below:
This lady was my mate in SHS Ei, relationship??? Oh Mimi 💔. Because of relationship? Some people dier Kai pic.twitter.com/aCT2S4epQt
When a man and woman decide to build a life together in marriage, they pledge to remain faithful to each other and never to keep secrets that could be a deal breaker.
A senior accounts officer at Benchmark Marketing, Victor Wellrich, has narrated how beautiful marriages can collapse over a husband or wife’s decision to hide or constantly change their mobile phone password.
Victor posited that a partner who keeps little secrets like passwords can hide major things like properties from their spouse.
“Keeping and hiding things is always a major topic in any relationship that determines the make or break of it. It starts with your phone, and password issues…when you change your password every week and you argue about it…you haven’t solved the problem that can escalate to something big.
“If you have mastered the will of keeping your password secret, then you can hide any other thing…I am very open, if I hide something, it will be for a good reason,” he told Paula Amma Broni on Moans & Cuddles.
Victor Wellrich also shared factors that can influence a husband or wife to build or acquire properties without informing their better half.
He mentioned that some individuals might never forgive their partners when they discover such secrets.
“Something must go wrong for you to change your character. You might have seen a certain recurring problem from the person, and you realize that this guy is not changing, perhaps he is selfish. So if he is selfish with his things, why don’t you be selfish with yours?” he explained.
Here are seven telltale signals that you are prepared for a relationship as someone who is not opposed to being in one.
You are happy
You are happy and comfortable being friends with yourself. If you are, it will be easier to be comfortable being around your partner.
Your emotions are stable
An emotionally immature or unstable person is often advised to avoid being in a relationship. If you are emotionally mature and stable, this is a sign that you are ready for a relationship. Being emotionally stable in this context does not mean there is no room to improve.
You are ready to be vulnerable to another
You are ready for a relationship when you are open to being vulnerable to your partner. Being vulnerable requires letting go and allowing another individual to have a level of effect on you that not many people have. It also means you are ready to share your good and not-so-good sides with another person. Why be in a relationship when you aren’t ready to be open with others? A relationship is not an isolation space but a space for close contact, including with your worst and best personalities.
You know
Another good sign is that you are certain it’s a good time to be in one. Being certain or “knowing” its time can happen based on the stage or phase of life you are at the moment. It could also be triggered by meeting someone you believe is the right person to start a relationship with. When you know, go for it. More so, when you acknowledge the need not to be alone, you are on the verge of finding a partner.
Your financial habits are healthy
You have a healthy financial life or habit. You are not willing to be a burden you your partner, whether male or female, right? Hence, your sense of independence financially is another sure sign you are ready to take on an extra financial commitment that is not in any way related to making money. Usually, financial stability is a major sign for many men to realise they are ready for a partner; meanwhile, for many women who are intentional about their lives, they see financial independence as a major yardstick for them ever to consider being a relationship with another. If you tick this requirement as a man or woman, you are ready for a relationship. Love is sweet, but when money enters, love is sweeter, right?
You are whole
Do you have a healthy mindset toward being in a relationship? Have you healed from past hurts directly or indirectly inflicted on you? If your answer to both questions is yes, there is a sign that you are ready to be in a relationship.
You are over a breakup
You are ready when you are sure and not sentimental about the fact that you are over a breakup and will not ruin your relationship with baggage from your previous relationship. Above all, be better, handle your issues, and be the person you would love your partner to be.
